A Reluctant Goodbye to My Maternity Clothes

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Today, I took my maternity clothes out of my closet. The experience was nothing like cleaning out my closet to get rid of things I don’t reach for or don’t fit anymore. It was much harder than I expected to let go. 

In doing so, I learned that I am not a mama who will post her maternity clothes for sale, exclaiming No More Babies! It’s not just because of how comfy or cute some of the clothes were. I literally lived in my sweater lounge pants for days. Those skinny jeans were legit the most comfortable and flattering jeans ever. And how I wish that top with the sparrows didn’t have side ruching as I would have kept it forever. It’s also because each piece of clothing holds a memory of one of the best experiences of my life. 

The thing is, I’m not just saying goodbye to the maternity clothes. I’m also saying goodbye to those months of loving my growing bump and the anticipation of a baby. To feeling those baby kicks. To the excitement of looking at a growing little one on an ultrasound and wondering what he or she will look like. To nesting, which I loved. To planning and setting up a nursery. I’m saying goodbye to an important part of my life. I’m saying goodbye to all of the emotions of pregnancy, to my first moments of motherhood. 

I didn’t think it would be possible to become attached to this temporary clothing, but it happened. I know now there is a psychological explanation behind this. It makes sense. I enjoyed being pregnant and was lucky to have two healthy pregnancies. I wore these clothes as my body changed and developed and grew two beautiful tiny humans. There is something so magical about that. 

Saying goodbye to them means I’m closing the baby-making chapter in my life, a chapter that has been amazing, beautiful, and more enjoyable than I ever imagined it would be. 

I wore my maternity clothes as long as I could postpartum, even after they didn’t fit me as they should anymore. But there’s a time when saying goodbye is necessary. And that time came when I kept having to pull up my constantly sagging pants. 

And so I – still somewhat reluctantly – sold some of my maternity clothes. Instead of the typical excitement that comes with making a sale, I was sad to have to box them up and say goodbye. I wrote a kind note to the mama to be who was receiving some of my favorites and told her that I hope they brought her as much comfort and joy as they did for me. 

In the meantime, I’m loving wearing my nursing clothing and leggings. They have been clutch as I chase my toddler around the house and snuggle with my newborn. I rest assured knowing that I’m not the only one to have feelings for her clothes. I’m sure when the time comes to say goodbye to my nursing clothing that it will be just as hard. Maybe even harder.

To all the moms-to-be, enjoy the comfort that your maternity clothes bring you. Enjoy all the moments with your bump because it goes by so fast. Don’t be afraid to take advantage of that ruching and extra stretch and eat an extra scoop of ice cream. And when you’re done having babies and your maternity clothes no longer fit, take your time saying goodbye to them because you’re saying goodbye to more than just clothes.

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  1. I feel this on every level, particularly as a loss mom. I have maternity clothes I have purchased in anticipation of growing a large bump and the clothes still have tags on. Too ashamed and embarrassed to return, they’ve sat unwashed and unused in a Tupperware. A Tupperware I’ve carried up and down from the basement oh so many times in hopeful anticipation. And just when I start to wash clothes again, they are being packed right back up. Friends have borrowed my maternity wardrobe and are possibly more attached to the clothing than I. Except for those items with the tags still on. Those are mine, and I think I will never get rid of them. It is desperately hard to close a chapter that never was and likely will never be.

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