After one of the most challenging years of my life, both personally and professionally, I spent many nights tearfully reflecting on where I went wrong. Why did I do something a certain way? Say a certain thing? Think a certain thought? Why didn’t I do better? Why wasn’t I a better mom? A better wife? A better friend? I didn’t give a lot of thought to what I did well or really give myself any positive feedback. I did not practice self-love
At the end of the year, I decided to join Weight Watchers because one of the things I was criticizing myself about was my weight. It was in that first meeting though, that I had an “aha” moment. The leader was talking about practicing self-love and about how we often jump to thinking the worst thoughts when it comes to thinking about ourselves. She then shared a quotation from one of the members that resonated with me in a very real way and compelled me immediately shift the way I was thinking. It made me want to write this blog in hopes that it might help others who are in the perpetual state of “What if’s” or “Why didn’t I” or, “I suck”.
“I never thought of myself as a bully until I heard the way I talk to myself.” – Ginger
Just let that sink in for a moment.
We are often telling our children to be nice to each other. Telling them how amazing they are, praising them for something they did well, lifting them up when their spirits are down. We are raising these amazing little humans who watch everything we do and who want to be like us when they grow up. They can see things in us that we’d never imagine. What might it be like if we saw ourselves through their eyes? Though the eyes of those who love us? Took time to reflect on all of the amazing WE are and to practice self-love each day?
That is what I am going to focus on this year, and what I am challenging everyone who reads this to do to.
Please sound off in the comments and tell us what you love about yourself. For the rest of 2019 and beyond, let’s remember that practicing self-love is critical to our happiness. Love yourself well!