As I was writing this post, I was researching what other moms, female leaders, and women entrepreneurs had to say about the topic of self-love, and I came across this quotation from Leonard Cohen:
“Ring the bells that still can ring, forget your perfect offering, there’s a crack in everything, that’s how the light get in.”
I breathed those words in for a good five minutes. As a woman and all that entails, I strive to be the best version of myself; not to be confused with perfecting my image, but I can get caught up in perfection over betterment. I’ve found that during my stressful seasons, my anxiety tricks me into an unhealthy balance of control and exhaustion.
Perfection should never be your goal, my friend. Instead, commit yourself to personal growth, to a healthy integration between work and motherhood, and to modeling positivity for your children. I use the term integration because let’s be honest, life overlaps. Integrating is the fusing together of parts, which can create a natural flow and routine.
Here’s where integration becomes balance: when you forget to take care of and love yourself.
Self-love is more than just a monthly treat yo’ self. It’s investing in the health of your mind, body, and soul. It’s the mindset of caring for yourself like you would your bestie. Self-love is living in the freedom of wholly respecting who you are at your core. It’s essential to living your best life.
So, why is it so hard?
Like Leonard Cohen said, “There’s a crack in everything,” and that’s often where the conversation ends. A crack, an imperfection, a failure is discovered and we stop believing in ourselves. We don’t slow down enough to see the rest of the sentence, “That’s how the light gets in.”
You are a light because of your story, because of the lessons you’ve learned along the way, heck, because of the lessons you are yet to learn! Oh Momma, don’t doubt yourself or let the haters win – let your light shine through even the smallest of cracks.
Kick Start Your Light :: A 30 Day Self-Love Challenge
I’ve created a 30 Day Self-Love Challenge to kick start your journey of falling in love with yourself. Once a year, I do a self-love or self-care challenge, and it has made a huge difference in my mindset and overall health.
This challenge can be done on your own, with an accountability partner, or a group of close friends. Pick a day within the next week to start and stick to it for the entire thirty days! Use #mymkemb to tag us on Instagram and show us your self-love!