Infertility and Infant Loss

I’m not sure it’s the reaction the ultrasound tech was expecting from me: “You've GOT to be kidding. Don’t DO this to me!”  She blinked a few times, then responded, chuckling uncomfortably, “You’ll do great! Twins are a lot of work,...

I had lived in Milwaukee less than a year when the symptoms began. Suddenly, I was exhausted all of the time. My body ached and my stomach churned unexpectedly throughout the day. It was a stressful time at work...

By all counts, I should have 13 children. In the last six years, I’ve had ten miscarriages — and they’ve come in all shapes and sizes. I have two healthy boys and I’m pregnant now, nearly 17 weeks, and for that I...

I never dreamed getting pregnant would be so difficult. When it came time to "pull the goalie," I thought it would happen almost instantly. It didn’t. With the passing of each month, my frustration, disappointment, and guilt grew. The guilt was...

It’s natural. When a friend is hurting, we want to fix it. We want to do anything we can to make her feel better. After opening up and sharing about my own miscarriages, I’ve had quite a few people ask me...

It’s so common. We’ve all heard the statistics. One in four women will experience a miscarriage. That’s 25% of us. One-quarter of pregnancies will end before 20 weeks. (And 75% of them in the first trimester). So why aren’t...

I’m an “old” mother.  I didn’t have my first child until I was 38 years old.  As the doctors say, I’m of “advanced maternal age.” Despite my advanced status, I never expected to have problems getting pregnant. Even though intellectually...

The day of a miscarriage is hard. If you’ve had one, you already know that. And even if you haven’t, no doubt you recognize the understatement. It’s the day the loss is most visceral, gut-wrenching and raw. It’s the next...